The Narcissistic Family

If you're like most of us who get involved with narcissists and other manipulators as adults, you might be realizing how familiar the patterns were to your childhood in some way.

After working personally with hundreds of people and reading thousands of comments on my social media posts and videos, I would guess about 97% of survivors of narcissistic abuse as adults, were raised in a family where there were similar patterns of abuse. 

Initially it's very difficult to have the realization that one or both of your parents or caretakers is a narcissist or another brand of manipulator. It can be devastating to face that truth so don't be surprised if you look back and wonder how you could've been in denial for so long.

It's normal to not want to see it. Your parents were the people who were most supposed to love you in the world. It's devastating when you realize that one or both of your parents is incapable of truly loving you. It can take a long time to finally accept that ugly truth. 

The most important thing to remember is, just because one or both of your parents were incapable of loving you, that doesn't mean you're unloveable! That's on them, not you.

When you're a child though, you internalize everything. If mommy or daddy couldn't love you, that creates a mental programming based on a false belief that you're unworthy of love. Then that feeling can stay with you into adulthood and manifest in adult relationships as you continue to accept abuse because it feels like love and home. 

I want to share with you this video if you're struggling with maintaining minimal contact with an abusive parent and you really want to go No Contact because your boundaries are continually bulldozed and you keep accepting other abusive people in your life. 

The family abuse dynamics are the hardest to break free from. In this video, I share a little bit of my personal journey on why I finally went No Contact with my mother. I describe how I know I made the right decision and what has changed in my life since then. 

The following video will help you get some new perspectives on parental abuse if you're still struggling with accepting that they made free will choices to abuse you. I mention some perspectives that I heard from Stephan Molineux. It was the best I’ve heard on the topic so I wanted to share the main points that moved me and relate these to narcissistic abuse in the family. This was a massive perspective shift for me and I hope it’s helpful for you too.

Most people who were raised in a narcissistic family have the first insight about that at some point in Stage One of the recovery process due to another relationship. But that realization quickly gets buried into the subconscious since everything is already so overwhelming. 

It's usually in Stage Two when people have worked through enough of the intense, initial symptoms during the early recovery process when they can finally take a look back at childhood and start unpacking the origins of narcissistic abuse in their life. 

The characteristics of a cult are nearly the exact same as those of a family where the matriarch or patriarch is a narcissist, psychopath, sociopath or other manipulator.

In the following video you'll find out about the characteristics of a narcissist's family cult. You might relate. Stay tuned for the tips at the end if you're thinking about defecting. Also check out the 3300+ comments on the video if you need to feel that you're not the only one going through this and you're not crazy.  

Get your UNSUBSCRIBE gear here! Unsubscribe from abuse, use, manipulation, propaganda, gaslighting, the narcissist's distorted reality, and BS in general. You can even wear it to family or social events where you need to remind yourself that you are unsubscribed. The best part is no one else will understand what it means!

Finally, this podcast episode is on narcissistic mothers for those of you who can relate to that experience. I'm sorry I don't have one on narcissistic fathers because I don't have life experience with that topic. 

 

 

If you're ready to heal from the people-pleasing and self-abandonment that you were conditioned to do since childhood, check out the Self-Care Mastery Course.

This advanced course will help you to create an entirely new and healthy relationship with yourself. You'll have the opportunity to address the roots of the issues caused by narcissistic abuse since childhood. As you put into practice these new tools in specific areas of your life, you will master the art of radical self-care and shift yourself into Stage Three (Thriver).

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